Having a baby is one of the deepest desires for many people, but it can also become a long and uncertain path. Sometimes, without realizing it, we postpone the decision to seek professional help in fertility, thinking that “there’s still time,” that “it’s not that serious,” or that “with a bit of luck, it will happen.” However, when it comes to fertility, time does matter. And knowing the most common mistakes made when delaying this decision can make the difference between just another attempt… or the real beginning of your story.
The Value of Time in Fertility
Fertility is not constant. It is a capacity that changes over the years, with lifestyle, and with medical factors that are often invisible. In both women and men, there are conditions that may be affecting reproductive health without showing obvious signs.
Every month counts. And delaying care may mean reducing your chances or requiring more complex processes. That’s why discussing the most common mistakes in postponing help is not meant to generate fear, but to give you the information that can help you make decisions in time.
Mistake #1: Believing that “there’s still time”
The biological clock does exist
Many women believe that as long as they have regular periods or feel “young,” there’s no need to worry. However, egg quality and quantity decrease significantly with age, especially after the age of 35. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve it afterward, but it may require different strategies or specialized techniques.
And what about men?
There is a belief that men can have children at any age without issues. But the truth is that paternal age also has an impact: it can affect sperm quality and increase the risk of genetic abnormalities in embryos. Time matters for both.
Mistake #2: Thinking it’s “normal” to take many years to achieve it
Many couples believe that as long as they have frequent, unprotected sex, a pregnancy will eventually happen, even if it takes years. But the World Health Organization defines infertility as the absence of pregnancy after 12 months of regular unprotected sex (or 6 months if the woman is over 35).
Continuing to wait without medical evaluation may be hiding important diagnoses such as endometriosis, low ovarian reserve, polyps, fibroids, tubal problems, sperm abnormalities, or even immune or genetic causes.
Mistake #3: Doing many tests without integrating them into a real diagnosis
One of the most common mistakes is collecting separate tests, often with different doctors, without ever reaching a comprehensive interpretation of what’s going on.
Fertility cannot be evaluated with a single test. A complete picture of reproductive health is needed: eggs, uterus, sperm, medical history, lifestyle, age, and more.
At Ingenes, we perform a comprehensive fertility consultation, with specialized tests, personalized case analysis, and a clear proposal to help you bring your baby home.
Mistake #4: Relying only on “natural” or home remedies
Changing diet, taking supplements, trying acupuncture, or following advice from social media may have certain benefits, but they don’t replace specialized medical care.
Fertility is a complex field, and if there’s an underlying medical condition, postponing real treatment with alternative methods can reduce your chances.
In many cases, the combination of reproductive medicine and healthy habits is ideal. But there must always be a clear diagnostic foundation.
Mistake #5: Feeling guilt or shame for not having succeeded yet
This mistake is silent, but very common. Many people blame themselves, isolate, or avoid talking about the topic. Some even postpone seeing a specialist because they don’t want to “hear bad news” or “accept” that there’s a problem.
In reality, seeking help is an act of love and courage. The problem is not not having succeeded yet; the problem is staying alone, without guidance, without answers, and without real options.
At Ingenes, we understand you. Our team knows what it means to be in that moment. And that’s why here, you’ll find not just science, but also empathy.
When should you seek help?
Although every story is unique, there are key moments to see fertility specialists:
- If you’re under 35 and have been trying for over 12 months without success.
- If you’re 35 or older and have been trying for more than 6 months without results.
- If you’ve had recurrent pregnancy losses.
- If you’ve been diagnosed with conditions like PCOS, endometriosis, fibroids, polyps, low ovarian reserve, or others.
- If you’ve tried inseminations or treatments elsewhere without success.
- If you are a woman without a male partner or a same-sex couple who wants to start a family.
- If you want to preserve your fertility for the future.
- If you feel your path needs a new opportunity.
Why Ingenes?
At Ingenes, we’ve spent 20 years supporting people who’ve tried everything, who’ve been looking for answers for years, and who deserve a real opportunity.
We offer:
- Over 75,000 babies born through our programs.
- Multi-cycle protocols that give you more than one chance to succeed.
- Comprehensive programs with advanced testing from the first consultation.
- Unique techniques such as IVF MORE®, Ovagen, and Endogen.
- Presence in Mexico and the United States, with over 19 branches.
- Medical and emotional teams that accompany you every step of the way.
Here, we don’t just analyze your results. We listen to your story. And we design a real path toward your baby.
What can you do today?
- Get informed: Don’t stay with doubts or myths. Look for reliable, up-to-date information.
- Break the silence: Talk with your partner, your family, yourself. Asking for help is not failure.
- Take the first step: Schedule your fertility consultation. Even if you think it’s too late… here, it could be different.
Conclusion
Delaying the decision to seek help for fertility is one of the most common mistakes — but also one of the easiest to correct. Instead of waiting for answers that don’t come, you can open the door to new possibilities. You’re not alone. At Ingenes, we understand every story, and we’re ready to walk with you to transform yours.
Today could be the first day of the path that finally leads you to your baby.